Category: General

It seems like I have all this success recently. Essentially everything that I try genuinely in my professional life works out. Most things are easy. I don’t even work super long hours. It just all comes my way, without having to put in so much effort. I guess that’s what they call privilege. Or talent. Or whatever. Having lost my best friend to addiction and childhood abuse 4 months ago, and having lost love to addiction and childhood abuse 5 months ago makes these things pale. And definitely grounds me. What’s striving worth when we can have the perfect moments here and now?

Walking across the streets of London, everyone seems to be in a rush. Everyone seems to have a place that they need to be, which is anywhere but in the here and now. We seem to be addicted to getting out of the here and now to some fantastical other place. Escaping the pain of the here and now, also, seems one of the primary drivers. This, curiously, is supported by the psychological literature, which has defined the minimisation of pain as one of our key drivers. Isn’t that a sad take on the human existence?

A bit more than 1.5 months ago, my best friend suddenly passed away. He had been ill a long time; it didn’t come unexpected. For him, it was a release from decades of suffering. And yet, I now wonder why society doesn’t prepare us better for the event of death. Why it’s never really talked about. Does it have to be that way?

Death is our constant companion, but we try to push it to the darkest corners of our consciousness. Carpe diem, right? Or rather YOLO, as we used to say before Facebook became itself something of a digital retirement home. In society’s imposed constant struggle for performance, prestige and perfection, it is so easy to lose track of the simple truth — such as the fact that the clock is ticking, for all of us.